I try very hard to be a good mom… I love my kids beyond belief, spend a lot of time with them, listen to them, care for them, teach them, and try to do things around the house as well. I make plenty of mistakes, but the Lord, my husband, and our boys make up for them. In general, I’ve been pretty satisfied.
But for the last few days, I’ve been thinking a little more about what it means to be a CHRISTIAN mom. I am a Christian, a person of faith. I’ve been assuming that, since I’m a Christian, and have been doing my best as a mom, I’m a good Christian mom.
Nice thought. But not necessarily true. All moms, Christian or not, love their kids by NATURE, and this strong relationship leads them to spend time with their kids, teach their kids, etc.
So, if all the things I mentioned above, are things ALL moms should do, what does it mean to be a Christian mom? I’ve been teaching my kids to pray and taking them to Church, but is that really all it means to be a Christian mom?
These are a few questions I’ve been thinking about over the last few days. It’s not that I think I’m being an un-Christian mom; it’s just that I want to be more aware and focused on the Christian dimension of my motherhood.
Christian moms do a lot of the same things any moms do. The difference often isn’t on the outside – it’s on the inside. Here are a few ideas I’ve had about what my Christian faith adds to my calling as a mother:
- Trust in God. Motherhood can be overwhelming. We’ve all experienced the days when we just want to collapse in tears. The Christian mom has added support here: we trust in God and know that we are not alone. We trust that he will make up for our failings. As St. Paul says, “All things work for the good of those that love God.” (Rom 8:28)
- Stewardship. Our children belong to God. Yes, they are ours, but not fully. We are stewards, and our children are gifts from God. In the end, they belong to him and go back to him. This should help us be a little humble, but also fill us with confidence and joy, that God has chosen US to reflect his love to our children.
- God is love. Since we are trying to reflect God as much as possible, LOVING our kids is the most important thing we can do. Things can wait – it’s OK if the laundry isn’t folded or the dishes are still dirty, as long as we have shown our kids (and our husbands) that we love them.
- Salvation. We are all called to be saved. We need to teach our kids about the importance of salvation, but we also need to remember it ourselves. As Christian moms, the difficulties, challenges and frustrations that accompany our life fit take on a new meaning; they are part of our path to heaven, one way that we can “complete what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the Church”. (Col 1:24)
- Joy. As Christian mothers, our joy too takes on a special meaning. The pure love, affection, trust and tenderness we experience in our relationship with our kids is a foreshadowing of the perfect love we will experience forever in Heaven.
I know there are many other ways being a Christian can influence being a mother. These are just a few of the ideas I’ve been thinking of over the last few days and wanted to share… To all you other Christian mothers out there – what do you think? How has your faith influenced your calling as a mother?