Defining Success: Who You Are and Who You Want to Be



If you’re anything like me, there are a lot of things you want to do… when you get around to it. I want to learn Arabic. I want to play the piano better. I want to give home decorating a try… after wanting to buy my own home, of course! And the list goes on. All the things I want from my future.

Everyone has ambitions, hopes and dreams. Some people work really hard to make them reality. This is normal and admirable, part of the human experience.

But stop thinking of your future for a minute. Stop thinking of who you want to be, and think of who you are now. Are you happy with your life? Are you happy with yourself? Not in terms of your fashion or salary bracket, but in terms of your actions, beliefs, feelings, relationships… Because that’s who you really ARE, guaranteed. Other things may or may not come to pass, but the way you are living now is your life.

Sometimes we forget that every day, a little piece of the future becomes a piece of the past. Where are we at the end of the day? TODAY? Fulfilled? Or dissatisfied and placing all our hope in the future?

It’s great to have hopes in the future, as long as we realize that they might never come true. One day, we will find ourselves looking at our past. If none of the things we hoped for from the “future” ever materialized, how would we feel? Like a failure? Or like a largely successful and happy person that didn’t get to do, have or be EVERYTHING they wanted to in life (come on – who ever does?).

I’m not ashamed of all the things I hope for in the future, and I really do hope that with hard work and God’s blessing, they will come true. But above all, I am happy with who I am now and the life I have now. I am surrounded with people I truly love. I am married to an incredible man, and have the two best sons a woman could ask for. I have a job that I love doing and is worthwhile. I have my faith – I truly believe it and truly love it. All in all, if I were to die tomorrow, without ever achieving all I hope to achieve in life, I would die a very happy woman, satisfied with my past. And I think that’s important.

Take a moment and look at your life, as it is now. Look at everything you are, everything you do, who you hang out with and what you believe, and make sure that, years from now, even if the future of your dreams never arrives, you remain proud of your past.

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