Recently I saw a comment regarding stay-at-home moms, suggesting that it would be in their best interest to have some sort of profession. The comment doesn’t pertain to me directly, as I happen to be a working mom. I am very happy with my situation – both my husband and I work at the moment, but we are able to bring both babies to the school with us, so they can still be with us.
However, for the record, I would like to defend all the stay-at-home moms that dedicate years of their lives solely to the care of their children. All moms, including stay-at-home moms, DO have a profession. In fact, they have many professions.
Mothers are cooks and bakers: they constantly fill their homes with the aromas of dishes or desserts made just the way their little ones like them.
Mothers are interior decorators: they transform a house into a home full of color, life and memories. More importantly, they transform the minds, hearts and souls of their little ones.
Mothers are photographers: they capture the most beautiful faces and precious moments. If you don’t believe this, take a look at Facebook or Instagram to see how many pictures moms take of their kids.
Mothers are doctors: Their touch and smile alone can cure many ailments, and when they aren’t nursing a sick child back to health, they can always operate on the tiny shirt that’s missing a button, or the teddy bear that’s falling apart.
Mothers are event planners: From birthdays and baptisms, to holidays, to the ordinary day that needs to be made extraordinary, families always need some event or other, and moms make sure they happen!
Mothers are lawyers: they are always ready to defend a little one that has been unjustly accused.
Mothers are judges: in the final analysis, mothers know best whether a little one is “guilty” or not, and the best way to help them learn from their mistakes and move forward.
Mothers are teachers: they spend every moment of every day teaching their children something about life, love and happiness.
And the list goes on… I do not believe mothers sacrifice a career when they have a child. On the contrary, by embracing motherhood, they choose the best of each career. Regardless of whether or not a mother has a job as well, her greatest contribution to society will always take place behind closed doors, as she wipes tears off little faces, satisfies little stomachs, educates little minds and teaches little hearts to love.
I feel no sorrow for a mother who gives up a “career” to stay home with her children, for by embracing motherhood, they don’t really sacrifice a career, but choose the best of each. I do, however, feel great sorrow for the many women who give up motherhood for the sake of a career, for no matter how far they go, they will never experience wiping tears off little faces, satisfying little stomachs, educating little minds and teaching little hearts to love. It may happen behind closed doors and it might be less prestigious than giving a dissertation or having a title before one’s name, but, in the end, it is the mother who makes the greatest contribution to society.
A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take. (Cardinal Mermillod)